SIGNS OF AN UNFAITHFUL HUSBAND - HOW TO KNOW IF YOUR HUSBAND HAS CHEATED
The wife is
always the last to know- at least that's what they say. But is that always the
case? A cheating spouse will always leave clues right under your nose and the
only reason you won't spot this is that your head is buried in the sand, or the
clouds (if you prefer). Now if you don't want to be the object of pity and
tsking noises and absolutely do NOT want to come off as gullible, naive, and
half-blind to boot, I suggest you keep your eyes peeled for these signs... yes,
despite how happy your marriage is!!!
Cheating is fast
becoming as common as pizza. This is however not an invitation to put on your
paranoid slippers and start imagining that every man in sight (perhaps even one
who is bedridden and can't get around without you) is cheating.
There are some
fool-proof signs that will out a cheating spouse, and surprisingly, they are
not the obvious ones you would be expecting. I mean get real: how many husbands
WOULD actually leave lipstick stains on their collars? So learn to look for the
Incessant and Unjust complaints
If your husband
suddenly starts finding fault with things he was perfectly okay with before,
consider yourself put on notice because it means that there is now someone else
in his life, new apparently, whose opinion he values enough to want to overturn
all that was previously familiar and normal. Chances are, he will start wanting
to change the little things like your shampoo, or your laundry detergent, or
the way you arrange the scrambled eggs on the plate, or even the way you wax
the floors and before you know it, he decides the little things are not enough,
he wants to change his wife.
For most of us, every
time we ignore our instincts, we end up regretting it, and in truth, a woman's
instincts are usually more accurate than she gives them credit for. If you
suddenly start getting that feeling in the pit of your stomach that he is
'stepping out on you', you may want to start being more alert.
There is a lot to be
said for body language no matter how people may underrate them. A cheating
husband will, at some level, feel guilt (unless of course he is a sociopath)
and invariably, if you are good, you can virtually smell and SEE the guilt
coming out of his pores. Of course, every cheat is also a liar (whoever heard
of an honest cheat), so if you suspect cheating, then you have to be on your
toes to catch him out in a lie. Clue, body language. It may not always be about
holes in his story; sometimes, it's in the way he tells them. Studies have
shown that not all liars avoid eye contact; in fact some go out of their way to
make eye contact so you have to look for other clues.
If your spouse has
been lip-locked with someone else, invariably, his kissing style changes. It
may be subtle or overt but once he has kissed the forbidden lips, the next time he touches lips with you, he
unconsciously mimics the other woman's technique. This does not however suggest
that he wouldn't kiss differently if say, he was punched on the lips by the
friendly neighbourhood burglar while the latter was carting away family
treasures, nor is this meant to suggest that 20 years down the line, he would
kiss you the same way he did at your wedding ceremony. You can easily figure
out where to draw the line being that you are a sensible woman.
Do you remember being
a kid with an overeager imagination? When you were asked who had been in the
cookie jar, you made up stories ranging from burglars to fairies in order to
protect the real culprit, you; but
when you were innocent of the 'theft', you simply said, "I don't
When a man has been
unfaithful, a simple "How was work?" is likely to earn you incredible
accounts of how he got delayed because his boss decided to do the rumba on the
An unfaithful spouse
will suddenly, and for no obvious reason, become suspicious of you, accusing
you of flirting with everyone from the mailman to the elderly gentleman next
door. If he was previously not the unreasonably jealous type, then be alert
because most cheats abide by the principle: an attack is the best defence. So
while you are busy fending off his attacks, he may be quietly and happily
cheating on the side.
He gives you unusually free rein with his gadgets
Most people check the
phones and e-mails first if they suspect someone is cheating and so, most
cheats have learnt to grow with the times. If he is being unusually
non-possessive of his gadgets, then you may have cause for alarm because not
only is he cheating, he is also consistently wiping off the evidence!!! It's
like premeditated cheating!
Follow the money
Every cheating man
wants to do right by his lady love so naturally, he resorts to gifts and trips.
If you can follow his spending habits, you may have a shot at catching him at
Please note that there
are exceptions to every rule, but if four or more of these signs are present,
you may want to keep a closer eye on your man. And yes, the signs in this articles are applicable not only to husbands, but also boyfriends. Indeed, where the 'suspect' is merely your boyfriend or fiance, a sign that works amazingly is: Watch where he spends time with you most. Studies have shown that if a man is juggling women, he rarely takes them to his house, prefering instead to spend more time at their place than his!
The worst thing you
can do is confront a cheating husband before you have all the facts or
evidence. Chances are, he will deny it and 'up' his cheating, daring you to
catch him at his game - if you can!!!
Okoye Sherina O.
(Previously published by the author on Ezine Articles)